Do you know one of the biggest lessons I’ve learned as a result of researching, writing and speaking about attention, concentration and focus?
If we want to truly FOCUS, we must first truly SEE.
Yet, to really SEE someone – or something – takes time, attention and intent.
Yet, as explained in Got Your Attention? … goldfish have longer attention spans than we do.
I’m not making that up. That’s from research by Harvard professor Nancy F. Koehn. Goldfish = 9 seconds. Human beings = 8 seconds.
What that means is we tend to rush through life distracted, impatient, perpetually on to the next thing.
At work, we’re constantly interrupted and besieged with conflicting priorities.
We rarely really focus on anything. As a result, we don’t really engage, we don’t really connect.
The good news? There’s an antidote to this.
Three times a day, take three minutes to do this simple ConZentration exercise: stop what you’re doing and really SEE who you’re talking to, SEE what you’re doing.
As soon as you do, you will feel a newfound appreciation for that person or activity. You will find yourself really listening to that person. You’ll find yourself more deeply engaged in that task.
It’s amazing how accessible focus, engagement and connection are. They are, literally and figuratively, a moment’s NOTICE away.
I’ve collected my six favorite quotes about seeing – with some added comments – and share them here. they’re excerpted from Got Your Attention? on how to connect with anyone, anytime, anywhere … and ConZentrate, a book I wrote about how to stay focused in an unfocused world.
Hope you find them thought-provoking. You might even want to post a favorite where you’ll see it every day as a reminder to stop and really SEE who you’re talking to, SEE what you’re doing.
Really seeing is the first step to being IN your life and truly experiencing and appreciating it – rather than rushing through it, missing it and wondering what it was all about.
It’s the first step to staying focused at work instead of feeling constantly frazzled, frustrated and frenetic.
Six Quotes on How to SEE Your Way to Improved Focus and Connection
1. The first words of our National Anthem, The Star Spangled Banner, are, “Oh, say, can you see…” The real question is, “Oh, say do you see…”
2. “Nobody sees a flower, really, it is so small, we haven’t time, and to see takes time.” – Georgia O’Keefe As mentioned, to see takes time and intent. We must give our mind an order and decide to focus our attention on THIS thing for THIS amount of time.
3. “Develop interest in life, in people, things, literature, music. The world is simply throbbing with rich treasure, beautiful souls, fascinating people.” – Henry Miller There is no excuse, ever, for being bored. That is simply a lack of imagination. Give your full focus to what you’re doing. Instead of doing things by rote, NOTE. Remind yourself what a miracle it is that you’re seeing, breathing, thinking, hearing, moving, feeling.
4. “Life is postponed until further notice.” -Sam Horn The quality of your life and work are directly proportionate to the quality of your attention and connection. Notice someone or something NOW.
5. “When the eye wakes up to see again, it suddenly stops taking anything for granted.” – Frederick Franck The second you really SEE someone or something; you’re flooded with renewed appreciation. Attention = appreciation.
6. “The whole of life lies in the verb seeing.” – Teilhard de Chardin Every time I see this quote, something deep within me says, “YES, emphatically YES.” Not seeing = not connecting. Fully seeing = fully connecting.
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Want more? Check out Sam Horn’s books – Washington Post bestseller Got Your Attention? which Marshall Goldsmith calls “a must for every leader” and ConZentrate which Dr. Stephen Covey ( 7 Habits of Highly Effective People) endorsed as “Remarkable, fascinating, thought-provoking, motivating.”
Or, contact Cheri@IntrigueAgency.com to arrange for Sam Horn to present her GOT FOCUS? keynote to your convention or corporate meeting. Discover for yourself why her programs on how to focus and concentrate have received excellent ratings from NASA, been featured on NPR; and how they can help your employees be more focused, mindful, connected and productive at work.