As Emcee of the Maui Writers Conference, I walked the beach each morning to rehearse that day’s introductions. One day, I saw a woman sitting on the beach by herself, crying. I went over and asked, “Are you okay?”
She said, “No, I’m not okay. I don’t belong here. Who am I to write a book? I don’t have a Ph.D. I’m putting myself up on a pedestal and I’m certainly no expert.”
“Hmmm. What do you want to write about?” I asked.
“My husband and I adopted a child, and it’s been more challenging than we anticipated. I went to the library to try to find a book that could help, but they all had ‘Pollyanna’ messages about what a joy it is – which made me feel guiltier!
I want to write the book I need and I can’t find.”
I said, “The question to ask isn’t “Who am I to do this?” The question to ask is “Will someone reading MY book benefit?”
Long story short – Jana Wolff did write that book and it’s been out in the world for 20+ years making a difference for thousands of people.
How about you? Do you have stories and insights you want to share? A business you want to start? Artistic ability you want to explore?
Remember, your work doesn’t do any good sitting in your head.
If your work might inspire or enlighten others, then not only do you have a right to share it, you have a responsibility to share it.
ACTION
Next time self-doubt tries to stop you from doing something, try shifting your focus from “Who am I to do this?” to “Who will benefit from this?”
To do that, grab your journal (this is a great one!) and write down 10 specific ways your stories, insights, or expertise can help others.
This reframe quickly transforms imposter syndrome into inspiration, which can encourage you to move forward, even when doubts creep in.